I’ve probably re-drafted this post 100 times, and still the perfect words can’t seem to come out. But, they come from the heart so hopefully that’s good enough. 🙂
*disclaimer I’m listening to a lot of John Mayer and Adele while I write this so … sorraayyy, not sorry*
I’ve had so many young girls message me asking about how I knew who I was supposed to marry. And although that decision came quite privately, personally, and spiritually…I still would love to share a few words about it! 🙂 Being only 20-outside of Utah-I look more than crazy. But I’ve found that I am okay with that. I read a blog post the other day by a girl named Abbey and it was called “Nineteen Year Old Bride.” To read what I’m referencing…you can click here. 🙂 Anyways, Abbey talked about a lot of the same feelings and emotions I have been feeling so HI IF YOU’RE YOUNG AND GETTING MARRIED AND THINK YOU’RE CRAZY (you’re not) GO READDDDD HER POST. Cuz amen, sista sue.
I think one of the most profound things someone has ever told me, came from my boss. To preface; when I first started dating my fiancé, I knew there was something different about him. After every date, I’d come home and tell my boss and my friends….”Guys….I can’t find one thing wrong with him. What’s the catch?” And I kept analyzing everything. I mean, analyzing in depth. When was something going to go wrong? I kept looking for everything wrong and failed to recognize and appreciate all that was right. My boss told me there were only 3 things he needed.
3. & Preside
and if he could do those 3 things….the 3 P’s….. I didn’t need to look for anything else wrong. Some may disagree, but for me, that stayed with me throughout our whole time dating. Check, check, and check. As soon as he said that, as soon as I recognized Charles could do those 3 things for me….our relationship changed. Suddenly talking about marriage wasn’t so scary and I became less and less guarded. Suddenly I stopped looking for everything that could go wrong. Suddenly the words of my peers and even respected adults started to not matter. Suddenly it was between me, Charles, and the big man upstairs.
Falling in love with someone is terrifying. Falling in love with Charles was hands down the mot terrifying thing I have ever done. But I did it. And I made it out okay 🙂 And I stopped listening to people telling me how to fall in love. Because guess what, there is no right way to be in love. There is no time limit. No guidelines, no right and no wrong. It’s how you need to learn, it’s how you choose to love. You’re in charge of that, and you get to write your very own love story. And yours might look really different from mine. 4 months knowing someone and marrying them? That might not be the ending you choose. But it was mine. And I am so happy with my happily ever (beginning) that I chose. Someone whom I love very, very much once said
“Choose your love, love your choice.”-Thomas S. Monson
There is no other way I could put it better than those 6 little words. And to all the girls who have messaged me, that is my advice to you.
I’m still learning how to love someone. I am learning how to change my whole life, split it in half and add another human being. So what if we have to live off of gift-cards and coupons. So what if we have to “miss out” on opportunities because we chose to get married. So what if I still have to call my mom multiple times a day to learn how to be an adult. So what if we “have the rest of our lives to be married”….we chose to start it, now. I will be learning how to be married for the rest of my life. And I will make lots of mistakes. But I will learn and come out a better person, that, I am sure of.
so for you….my readers…my friends, my little luvs, start now. Start your life in whatever way it may be. You have my support.
all my love!